“Somebody Tell Me Why!”

Someone recently presented a question to me: “Why are all these beautiful, intelligent black women single?” I often wonder the same thing. There are so many beautiful, smart women who, indeed, as they say, “have it going on!” So, what is the problem, is it the women, or is it the men? I know that today’s society is increasingly different from years ago. Homosexuality is rampant, but plenty of Christian women yearn for companionship and, ultimately, marriage and a family. But where are the men? Somebody tell me why! 

Why aren’t they running toward these beautiful creations of God? When I speak of beauty, it is not just outward but, more importantly, inner beauty—women who are doing great things in their own lives and the lives of others. Many have great careers, and those who may not be career-oriented are yet doing well and are loving and kind individuals. Just don’t make sense to me! Desiring to have a relationship is just not geared toward young women, but women of all ages. Some beautiful seasoned women yearn for companionship. They are not dead; they are yet alive and desire to have someone by their side.

Some women have previously experienced marriage and endured heartache and pain, but they want to know and feel love again. Age does not change that. My heart aches for our young women and the older ones if they desire a good relationship, which appears to be so far away. But, I mostly feel pained when it comes to those women who wish to be in a relationship and have families. Somebody tell me why? Why the loneliness and aching when there are some beautiful choices for men. We know that men should “find” a wife, but are they looking? Some men I know don’t want to commit and are entirely satisfied just having the milk and not buying the cow(remember that), but women want commitment.

This pandemic causes more loneliness and despair due to the need for social distance, but there is a way to connect where there is a will. First, there has to be someone to show interest. Then a possible relationship may occur. Somebody tell me why so many women are alone. I am going to ask the readers to do something for me. Share this post with any men you know. It could be friends, relatives, co-workers, etc.  Ask them what their thoughts are on this subject. Then please share with us. Women want to know. I want to know. Why are men not approaching some of these available women?

As I conclude, I can’t wait to receive your responses. Who knows, maybe a connection may come about for one of these ladies. I just thought of something. If I could get enough women and men participants, I would do a zoom meeting and let women hear for themselves. What do you think about that? It could be fun and exciting. Let’s see what happens. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “That’s Not the End of Your Story!”

Be encouraged, and God bless!

Sister Jackie

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Monique

    As one of those beautiful creations of God (lol), I often wonder why so many of us are still single. I have beautiful friends who are not only gorgeous on the outside but also on the inside and it truly baffles me while they are still single. I know there is a “shortage” of single, available. men but as time goes on – we often wonder where they are. I know for myself, if I just wanted to be married, I could have easily married long ago. There were, and still are ;-), guys who I could marry. Good guys but not the right guy for me. Some are not Christians, others are not emotionally or mentally where they should be for marriage. And others – I just don’t trust them lol. So, if I was willing to settle, then yes, marriage would be easy to obtain. But, I wouldn’t be happy and I know that it wouldn’t be what I ultimately wanted. So, I think for a lot of these beautiful women, it’s not that there arent men around – it’s that we haven’t met the One for us. We are not looking to just be in a relationship or married to just anyone for the sake of saying we have some. And until I meet the one that my soul truly loves, I’ll continue wait on God for him.

  2. Sis. Jackie

    Beautifully and wisely stated! Settling for anything less than what one deserves is a disservice. Waiting on God to send the “One” is the best choice- no matter how long it takes. To you and all of your beautiful friends, hold on, trust God, and know He has not forgotten any of you. The best is yet to come, ladies, without a doubt!!! Thank you for sharing, baby girl, and may the grace of God sustain you, comfort you, and cover you as God’s wonderful man of God is being prepared for you.

  3. Terria

    Sis. Jackie, thank you for posing this question. For so long successful women have been told to just lower their standards and their “Boaz” would come. However, I think the issue is much deeper than that of standards and so I’m excited to see what your responses are from this article.

  4. Sis. Jackie

    Yes, it goes beyond standards. Just my thought, but I believe one issue hinges on the insecurity that some men experience being in the presence of successful women. I also am looking forward to hearing what others have to say on this subject- especially men. Thank you so much for sharing, and may the love, peace, and joy of our Savior be with you always. God bless you!

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