Have you ever made the statement, “I am ready to throw in the towel?” Or something similar to that, but it yet meant you wanted to throw in the towel. What that signifies is that you are tired, don’t want to take another step toward what you are trying to do, or you have just plain given up. Cambridge Dictionary defines this disposition in this way-to admit that you are defeated or cannot do something anymore. To stop trying to do something because you have realized that you cannot succeed. Wow! Who wants to feel like that? None of us, but it happens from time to time.

I was inspired to write this post when someone very dear to me was feeling somewhat discouraged with their studies. It’s not easy working full time and being in a rigorous academic program at the same time. One day I received a text stating that the individual was about to throw in the towel, but after receiving the results of some assignments, which by the way were very good, the person said that they guess God had thrown it back and said, “I’m not done….yet!”

Yes, my sisters, there are going to be days when we want to give up and give in because it appears that things will never change, especially in our relationships. For whatever reason, we seem to repeat the cycle with having someone in our life who doesn’t treat us in the royal way that we deserve. It doesn’t matter how much we love; how much we give of our self, the result ends up the same way in getting in return less than what we deserve and are entitled to have. We deserve the best and are entitled to receive the best because we are children of a King above all kings.

So, after a while, we give up and say that joy in that area of our life will not happen. It doesn’t seem possible anymore. We throw in the towel. But, as I recently stated in a post, God is the author of the story of our life, and He alone has planned and established every area of our life, which includes relationships. When we are ready to throw in the towel, God can throw it back at any moment, signifying He is not through yet using us for His glory. Remember, it’s not  about us and what we want, but it’s about God and what he has chosen as our mission and purpose on this earth. His glory will come forth, no matter what. We will have rainy days, but it doesn’t mean that the sun will never shine again. It will; I know it will.

For the sake of transparency, I sometimes feel that I won’t ever have the kind of relationship I desire, which is simple, nothing fancy or perfect, just one in which there is genuine love, respect, and caring. I want a relationship where I am not giving the most emotionally- most of  the time. That is not a lot to ask, but it seems to be so hard to get. I often wonder what is wrong with our men today. Is their self-esteem so low that they don’t feel worthy of being loved and treated right by someone? Do they not know how to reciprocate genuine love, and therefore, they mistreat the giver of such things and then run around with trash? It may seem tight these things I am saying, but it’s right.

Don’t make God’s sweet creations want to throw in the towel and give up on good relationships. One thing I do know and believe that one day God is going to throw my towel back and say, “My daughter, I am not through with blessing you yet with your heart’s desire to receive what I have for you.” Do you hear Him speaking those words to you who desire a good relationship? If you do tell Him, “Thank you!” The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him. The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him. Lamentations 3:24-25. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Believe the Stuff!”

Be encouraged, and God bless!

Sister Jackie