Have you ever thought about the difference between “being in love” and “loving someone?”Does it make a difference in a relationship? Relationships can be very complicated and full of ups and downs. There has to be some element to sustain the relationship and get beyond the challenges. Does being in love get you to the finish line in the relationship? Otherwise, give you the endurance to be with this individual until death you do part. Or, is loving the person the key to a fruitful relationship even amid problems. What is better?
It’s important to know where we are in a relationship with someone, be it in a courtship or marriage. The durability of the relationship depends on where the ”love is.” Often relationships fail because the individuals are not on the same page. One may be in love while the other person loves the individual. To clarify, when we are in love, we are more emotional creatures. We want to be with the person most of the time; we are delighted to be in their presence and often glamourize the relationship. Think about how you feel when you are “in love” versus loving someone. What is better?
On the other hand, when we love someone, there may be days when we don’t even want to be near the person. They truly can be aggravating, but we love the individual. Therefore we can survive the ups and downs in the relationship. We may want to leave the person and connection, but love overcomes a multitude of faults. Loving someone makes us put aside some of the fantasies we have while being in love. Love can result in a long-lasting permanent relationship, whereas being in love can quickly fade when trouble arises. What is better?
So, think about your present or past relationships. Most relationships begin with infatuation and being in love. The strong ones venture on to loving the individual and having a more committed relationship. When we love someone, we tend to be more tolerable and work harder to make unfavorable situations better.
As I conclude, shouldn’t we shoot for the stars and “love” instead of “being in love” and make sure the person we are involved with before we take more serious steps “love” us too? I believe down the line, our relationships can be more lasting—just a little food for thought, dear sisters who long for companionship and marriage. Go beyond being in love. Develop a relationship that will allow you to “love someone” everlasting. What is better? What will help us to weather the storms in life? Would you mind telling us your view?
And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. Colossians 3:14. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “But, None of These…!”
Be encouraged, and God bless!
Sister Jackie