Have you ever met someone who loves to give? A person who supports every church function, work affair, gives to family, friends, strangers, and anyone who needs a helping hand. I believe some people are just natural givers- born to provide for others. People who love giving do it from their hearts and don’t look for a return. The bible speaks of the gift of “helps.” What a wonderful gift to be endowed with, especially in this season of life.
So now, let’s look at giving in a personal relationship. Do you know someone who gives so much of themself in an intimate relationship and appear to be the primary giver? Maybe you are the one, or once upon a time, that person. You just did everything you could to make your significant other or spouse feel loved and unique without being asked. Do you think that a person can give too much in a relationship? When is too much -too much? Does this only apply to unmarried individuals or also those who are married? Is there a limitation on how much a person should provide to someone else?
Are there signs that indicate a person is giving too much to their significant other or spouse? Can a person give too much of themself to a spouse? Does this apply to someone you desire to be a spouse? What happens if you are not receiving equal treatment? If you feel someone can render too much of themself, time, resources, etc. should they stop, and if so, how?
Last, should others tell you you are giving too much in your relationship? I think I have given you enough to contemplate. Dear readers, let us know when is giving too much – too much in a relationship. Or you may feel that one can never give too much. And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues. 1 Corinthians 12:28. I’ll be back next week with a new post, Tough Question: “What Would You Do (WWYD)?”
Be encouraged, and God bless!
Sister Jackie
I believe one can give too much-too much in personal relationships.
I remember when I was a young woman and both “his” mom and my ma’dear’ both told me that I did too much for him. I thought they just didn’t understand the heart that quivers with limitless love like my big bursting heart was doing about him – and afterall we were engaged, I was in LOVE!!!, LOL. But needles to say, they were right and I was wrong, for time proved it out, and, I must say that I found out what they meant “eventually” years later in life, LOL – it took me a minute to come to myself, lol…just my story…
But seriously, I think the “reason” behind the “excessive” giving of time and things in relationships has to be determined and understood…for some giving may be just for a season and a good reason,…while some giving may seem to have no end, and the giving is all about frivolousness, insecurity, flesh and vanity.
I think in this day and time of great trials, challenges, in-decision, uncertainty, pandemics, great losses and the like…we all are getting lessons on the excessiveness and validity of giving and doing too much that has no good fruit in it at all…for things are just things that may add to in a positive way, but they may not add any good thing…so why waste time and money in giving and doing what is just a “thing”…yes, I know , it may make us momentarily feel better,…but overall, is it really worth the price, short-term or long-term?
But, “i” think what we really want in our giving of ourselves/our time/things, is, to know that we are felt about in the same way as we feel about them that we give to – which may or may not be the case, but the problem. And I know that we cannot ever beat God giving, but, this to me, is not about the un-questionable relationship in our giving that we should have with our God.
But again i say, if it works for you and you can live with it, then just give with a joyful heart expecting nothing from the act of your giving, then, one is less likely to feel great disappointment or un-received expectations.
Matthew 5:23-24 talks about how we should be on one accord with others before bringing gifts that God will accept. I think, likewise, if we are on one accord with the one that we are giving to, then it’s truly not about the “thing” or time, it’s about what’s genuinely in one’s heart, and then what is given is justified, it’s just “icing on the cake”…
Just my long thoughts…Stay safe, Be Blessed, Keep Hope alive!!!
You have clearly stated your position. Thank you so much for sharing your life experience. I bring away two points: Know the reason behind any excessive giving and be prepared if you don’t receive the same in return. God bless you in all your giving, and His grace and mercy sustain you.