“When two different forces come together, it causes a storm.  Storms not only happen with Mother Nature but also sometimes in our very lives. Our human nature is sometimes so different from our counterparts that they collide. The collision results usually in fragmented or broken pieces. How does this come about, you may be wondering.  One sure way is when we are “unequally yoked.” When we choose to spend our life with someone, we need to make sure that we are equally yoked on many levels.

First, the spirit, which is the most important. How can two walk together unless they agree? If your religious beliefs are not the same, this can surely and most likely cause some issues in the relationship. Does it mean you are better than that person? No. It means you may not agree on many important topics such as church attendance, child-rearing, and the list goes on. Can you work through these issues? Yes/ No /Maybe so, but relationships are complicated without any added unnecessary problems or significant concerns. The more you can do to ensure a healthy relationship, the more time you can spend enjoying each other and the life that you have together.

Sometimes we are so starry-eyed over someone that we feel that love will conquer everything, and we can make the necessary adjustments to accommodate the other person to make them happy. But, remember, happiness is fleeting, and we can’t ensure another person’s satisfaction forever, neither our own. When the honeymoon period is over, will you want to keep making concessions that you are generally not comfortable making? Will resentment come into the relationship to further cause more pain and heartache? 

The best thing to do is to seek God first for your mate. He knows what we need.  God will not choose someone that is not equally yoked spiritually, and I believe even naturally, there should be a natural connection. If you don’t enjoy doing anything that the other person enjoys doing, the relationship will have many bumps in it.  Spare yourself and the other person. Marriages can easily break down when a collision occurs. For example, one spouse loves being home, while the other spouse is the opposite. After a while, the two can find themselves drifting apart and seeking other things outside of the marriage relationship. Bam! A collision! I have seen it happen, unfortunately, to people I know. 

A person may seem good to you, but good isn’t good enough if God’s principles are not in the mix. I didn’t wait on a mate who was spiritually equally yoked with me, although the person had some great qualities. Whereas I spent a lot of time in church, my other half wasn’t with me most of the time.  As Christian women, we want to do God’s will, and we should but not without considering our spouse because we want to avoid any downfall, which may lead to other unexpected things. Once we marry, we have a responsibility to our spouse. There has to be a balance. 

As I stated in a previous post, I didn’t choose to attend the same church as my spouse because it was a different denomination from the one I attended my entire life. Right there, an example of being unequally yoked. Sometimes we bring things to our front door. Saying ” I do” isn’t the magic word that changes a person. Someone close to me once said, ” You can’t change a man unless he is wearing a diaper.” I have learned first hand the importance of being equally yoked all the way around with a spouse. One can apply this to a significant other who may one day become a spouse.

To my sisters, who are asking God for a spouse, listen and obey His voice. If you do, you can avoid a relationship collision that can ultimately affect your life. Put the brakes on and stop the crash before it happens! Don’t lose patience waiting on God. Save your heart some future aches and pains. Be ye not equally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14 I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Take your Foot off the Pedal!”

Be encouraged, and God bless!

Sister Jackie