In a conversation with one of my dear friends recently, she told me of a discussion with her high schooler grandson. He spoke about how the boys didn’t have to worry about having a girlfriend because the girls are chasing them. Is it no wonder that young men grow into men who don’t want to commit? Why commit to one when you have a choice of many. Let’s teach our young women to -Stop the chasing! It’s better to be the chased instead of the chaser. Behaviors can quickly become habits if not put in check.
I think ( just my thought) that most men do get weary of the chase after awhile. Yes, it may be fun initially, but men need to feel they are in control- just another thought of mine. Furthermore, it’s beautiful to have someone pamper and shower you with love and affection. But if we are always running after someone, when do we get to feel that way? Everyone wants love, but sometimes we are the cause of our not receiving the love we desire. I know waiting is hard, but if our young ladies can be patient and wait for God to send who He has for them, more marriages will last. We unequivocally, without a doubt, will experience less stress in our relationships and more joy. Stop the chasing!
This discussion centers around young folks, but it also applies to gracefully mature ladies. We can’t let our guard down either. I am sure each of us knows someone who desperately desires to be in a relationship, but with all soundness of mind put aside, the chase is on. Men often don’t have to worry about their tomorrow because some women will do whatever to keep a man in their life, even if they have to share that individual. They will pay the bills, buy the food, clothes, name it, not to be alone. All of this is a form of chasing. We are better than that. What are your thoughts?
In conclusion, let’s be patient and teach our young ladies to be patient. It bothers me when I see females of all ages not receiving the love, attention, and care they need, deserve, and desire. Furthermore, it’s disheartening to see someone lowering their standards and chasing after empty dreams. Stop the chasing, stand still, and give God a chance to work. Our new reality -we will be alone more at present, but this too shall pass. Single ladies, we will make it to the other side that yields companionship. Wait and see! Stop the chasing! And now, Lord, what wait I for? my hope is in thee. Psalm 39:7. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Keep Your Mustard Seed!”
Be encouraged, and God bless!
Sister Jackie
Hello Jackie, I too, believe that God put that “chaser” spirit in men. Their makeup is to be the hunter not the hunted, the pursuer, It appears that so many things today are flip side up, if I can use that jargon. He that finds, he that finds, he that finds; not she that finds. There is something so special and complimenting about the right man for the right reason pursuing his missing rib. I’m so content and thankful that God and Eula Moss
(that’s my mom) taught me to wait. Truthfully speaking, it wasn’t always easy, but it was always rewarding.
Blessings and Patience to all the “Women In Waiting”.
Waiting is a virtue that yields a beautiful return. Thank you for sharing those insightful words. Thank God for the teaching of our precious mothers. God bless and keep you in His compassionate care!
Sister Jackie, thank you so much for those thoughts and words.
Praying that God continue to bless you with a word for his people.
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I genuinely appreciate it. May our awesome God richly bless and sustain you in His loving care.