Emotion is a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others. Oxford. Daily, we experience various emotions throughout the day. Some feelings can be tense, depending on what is happening at the time. We all enjoy feeling emotions that generate happy feelings in us, but some are just the opposite. Unfortunately, we can’t always control the emotions that come forth in our relationships. Negative emotions are normal in any relationship. We may experience times of sadness or even anger, but the key is how one maintains their feeling and also what caused it. Everyone reading this post can think of times when even negative emotions took a turn for the better at some point; if your partner provided emotional support, that probably helped to turn your frown into a smile. The main point is that being in a relationship warrants each person to consider the feelings of the other person. How does it make you feel when there appears to be no concern for how you are feeling? Even if you are feeling joyful about something, you want that excitement to be noticed and shared by your partner.

Now let’s flip this to another side the real purpose of this post. Suppose you are no longer in a relationship with a particular person for whatever reason. During the time you were together, there were issues, which most likely generated some level of pain and heartache. You are no longer together, which wasn’t your desire, but it is what it is.You forgave the person for whatever misdeeds and are at the place where only the memory of the pain exists. This other individual has moved on into a new relationship, which they should be devoting their time to, hopefully doing better this time around. But, this person is now seeking to reach out to you frequently- and for what? When the person was with you, they were not satisfied, so why now when healing has taken place within you? Why keep reaching out and causing new emotional pain? The two of you can’t be together, so why? I know you are wondering what I am talking about in this post. This post is to help someone who is experiencing this situation. The person wants the unnecessary communication to cease. They gave everything they could to the past relationship. They didn’t want it to end, but it did due to painful circumstances that were difficult to move beyond.

You might say that the individual should tell the person just that (stop the unnecessary communication), and they have and also reminded the person of the need to strengthen their new relationship and stop trying to go back in the past. Only works for a minute, and then the reaching out occurs again. I have my thoughts on what the person could do, but I would like to hear yours. The individual wants the person to realize that they are only causing unwarranted emotions to surface again. One cannot undo the past, and some relationships won’t rekindle, so accept it for what it is. Most times, when individuals see the errors of their way, that is when they want to turn the hands of the clock back, but that can’t happen. We must accept when there is nothing we can do to change the present and do better with relationships going forward. I must tell you that the person this is occurring to is waiting on God for the right relationship and intends to move forward at God’s bidding, not backward. The other party needs to realize- It’s over, so accept that fact and concentrate on their current relationship.

My dear readers let this post be a reminder that we should value others in our relationships, so there won’t be any regrets. Treat each other with respect, and if you don’t want to be with the person at some point, gracefully end the relationship so you both can move on in peace. Once the connection has genuinely finished, and you have moved on, don’t cause the person further heartache by trying to stay in contact with them, while being with someone else. So selfish! One of my spiritual daughters stated in a previous post, “Everyone deserves a second chance. Just not with me.” Best to keep what you have the first time around if you want it! But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Am I Worth Fighting For?”

Be encouraged, and God bless!

Sister Jackie