Don’t give your pain a free pass or ride. My mother used to say that if you give a person an inch, they will take the whole New Jersey Turnpike (She use to live in New Jersey). If you cater to your pain and give it free access to your life, it will keep growing until it becomes the master of all that you are and all that you do. Pain can bring on anger, hatred, jealousy, insecurity, self-esteem issues, to name a few. We have to speak to our pain. Tell it what to do. We must be the instructor of the pain that we experience. We can’t let it teach us because most likely we won’t like the lesson.
When we are in pain, it’s hard to think clearly. Our primary focus is the pain we are feeling. Pain hinders our interactions with others. It can cause us not to treat others well. Pain can be all-consuming. Having a broken heart is a painful experience, so we have to be careful that what we are feeling doesn’t affect others. I have been around people who because of a broken heart find it difficult to maintain their otherwise pleasant demeanor. You probably have come across individuals like that too. How do we help them? Patience is key. When I know someone is not their usual self, I try to consider the source (who I know this person to be) and look beyond the fault to see the need.
As painful as situations could be, I refused to let pain dominate my life. Was it easy to do that? No, but it was necessary to keep my sanity and reasonable health. Pain can be controlled when we stay in the word of God. The Lord always has a word of consolation for us. If you are experiencing the pain of heartache, read the word of God, don’t always focus on what’s causing the pain. Forgive the one causing the pain. I will be doing a post/s on forgiveness soon. Forgiveness was vital in helping me to overcome the pain of a broken heart. Don’t give your pain a free pass to rule your life. Put it under the subjection of God’s holy word. Blessed be God, which hath not turned away my prayer, nor his mercy from me. Psalms 66:20. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Just an Appetizer!”
Be encouraged, and God bless!
Sister Jackie
What an awesome post. I must say when reading the piece about being patient when dealing with unpleasant people caused me a bit of repentance that I’m frankly -delinquent on. Lol! The reason is, I haven’t always been patient, but chose to lash back out at others in the face of their pain. After reading your post I began to think, maybe the reason I lashed out was because I am/was in pain too. It’s like sweating, why would you sweat if you’re not hot. So to compare, why would I automatically lash back out, if I wasn’t in some state of pain or discomfort myself.
Self assessment is in play now with me. I’m on a quest to search myself for evidence of unwanted pain and discord within my family.
I will share when I discover the root of the issue.
Thanks for sharing this amazing post!
Insight is the first step toward resolution. You are on your way! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Looking forward to future comments. God bless you as you take your next step.
AMEN, Misery loves company, and I don’t want to be in it’s company!!! Like they say, “nip it in the bud”, in other words cut off the plant growth(pain/trouble), at the root, before it has time to sprout and grow…Very well articulated…Thanks for sharing Sis!!!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. And yes, we have to “nip it in the bud” for us to have healthy growth. God bless you my sister!