Recently, I was in a discussion with someone about relationships. During the discussion, different areas of relationships came up. One thing was what one needs to know about each other. We both agreed on “Know the Background!” of the individual. Specifically, not just who the person is individually but also the family background. Do you think that a person’s family upbringing helps to mold their character? I think so. “Know the Background!”

Undoubtedly, what we do or say may have roots in our upbringing. For example, I wouldn’t say I like things out of order in my home. As soon as I spill something, I will wipe it up. It doesn’t matter if I am in the middle of eating something quite delicious. Furthermore, I will clean up after other people. I am always cleaning something. Shameful, right? Maybe. But it stems back to my younger days when my mom taught me how to clean a house. I grew up being the only girl with five younger brothers. There was always some cleaning in the works.

To get to my point quickly, this attribute of mine may conflict with someone else views on general housekeeping. Hence, my behavior may cause someone else to feel uncomfortable because that is not what they grew up around. Everyone does not feel the need to clean something immediately. This example is simple, but we all grow up differently with different views on different matters. “Know the Background!” of an individual you are having a relationship with, so later down the line, some compromises can be made if necessary. Communication, as always, is critical to strengthening our relationships. Through communication, negotiables and non-negotiables will surface. “Know the Background!”But be not thou far from me, O Lord: O my strength, haste thee to help me. Psalm 22:19. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “You Are Coming Out!”

Be encouraged, and God bless!”

Sister Jackie