“How Do You Take A Chance On Love Again After Enduring Heartache?”

Everyone needs and desires love and to be loved. It doesn’t matter what a person may say about love and relationships; how much hurt they have experienced, I believe that the desire to be loved is somewhere within. Do you agree or disagree? I say this because, from the beginning of time, God wanted man to have companionship. In the second chapter of Genesis, God specifically says, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

So what happens? Life happens on so many levels. When someone is in love, everything is glowing, rosy, and just beautiful, especially when the feelings are mutual. Think about when you were in a loving relationship. It most likely made you want to do everything that you could to make the other person happy and bring joy into their life. You can probably think of how you acted or how you saw other people’s behavior. Everything is going well until things start to happen that pull away pieces of the connection. Pull away enough pieces, and joy can turn into heartache and pain. You may begin to wonder if the broken pieces will ever come together again and to what degree.

As time moves forward and things don’t change for the better, you find yourself in a broken and perhaps even bitter state. Have you ever met someone so wounded that they said they never wanted to be in a relationship again? Some women may become “men haters,” and I suppose some men may become “women haters.” Is that how God desires our life to be? The individual may say you don’t know how badly this person hurt me. I gave my all and all to be the best partner or spouse. I endured the hurt, pain, heartache, infidelity -You name it, for a long time. You are right. No one knows the way you know, but should you shut down your heart to love?

So that is my question to you, dear readers. How does one take a chance on love again after enduring heartache and pain? I ask this question for all age groups—the young as well as the seasoned. As you answer that question, think about, if you do take a chance on love again to what degree? Wholehearted or half-hearted? Don’t forget to send in your tough relationship questions. You can do so anonymously and use the contact page on my blog. Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy. James 5: 11. I’ll be back next week with a new post, Tough Question: “Should One Maintain A Relationship With Their Ex’s Family/Friends?”

Be encouraged, and God Bless!

Sister Jackie

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Brenda

    Well, another loaded question!!!!
    So you’ve loved hard; completely, not holding back, only to get hurt. The love is great, and wonderful and sometimes challenging, however, there’s risk involved because you’re not in it alone.
    Many times we love, get hurt, heal, and love again.
    Sounds so simple. WRONG.
    Did you really heal from the pain/hurt or did you deaden or hide the pain; are you still bitter or suspicious?
    A child is injured on the playground and oftentimes the injury leaves a physical scar. That scar reminds him/her
    to be careful the next time around; nevertheless the joy of playing with friends out-weigh the memory of the pain so they return to the playground with excitement and enthusiasm

    Psalms 147:3 says The Lord will heal the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.
    You see, God, the mighty healer, does His greatest restoration within a person’s heart.
    It’s amazing what God can do if we give Him all the broken pieces. Remember the song; “The potter wants to put you back together again”

    Go ahead; love again, live again, trust again.

    How many ladies have declared and sworn that they will not go through the pains of childbirth again, only to find themselves in room 222 of Emory Hospital with child number 7……because of the joy set before them; they remember the pain no more.
    I hope that’s not a bit of a stretch.

  2. Sis. Jackie

    We can love again, live again, and trust again with the help of our amazing God. The potter can put the broken pieces of our hearts back together again! You have given us much to think about and consider. God bless you, my sister, and may God’s love bless you one day with a new love 😊. Sidebar to the readers- Brenda is a widow.

  3. Audrey

    Awesome…I believe that one should never give up on “love”, period… even when their heart has been broken. Maybe it’s wrong time, wrong person. We have broken God’s heart MANY times, and He has not given up on “loving” us.
    For as the writer before me said, God can and will heal broken hearts “in due time”…preparing it to receive “better”. The plan is that in time we are wiser and have more patience. We learn how to move forward from pitfalls, we learn how to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, while having learned to not be anxious for anything.
    But truly, I don’t believe that we should ever give up on the promises of God for our life, love, hope, joy, prosperity, etc…whatever it is, I totally, truly believe that it “all” shall come to pass in due season, every promise kept. I think sometimes it seems “afar off”, and we get discouraged because we want it “now”, and try to orchestrate it out ourselves totally on desires and emotions, but that is the nature of mankind…
    But again I say that I know, that i am never giving up on “love” in every area of my life that I desire it and need it.
    I’m Looking Forward to better – I see me in the future and I look BETTER,…just sayin’!!! For me, day by day, I’m Just learning how to enjoy the journey of this miracle of life and every season of it along the way. I truly believe if one desires it, that love will find a way “in due season” if we don’t give up.
    “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” – Galatians 6:9

  4. Sis. Jackie

    Wow! So encouraging! You have expressed many significant points. I agree that we shouldn’t ever give up on love or the promises of God. I declare and decree that I won’t give up because a greater blessing is coming my way! Heaven’s blessings upon you and may love surround and overtake you in every way, my sister.

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