Whenever I heard the word “ego,” I always thought of someone who was egotistical or otherwise self-absorbed. Ego defined is, “your idea or opinion of yourself, especially your feeling of your own importance and ability” Cambridge Dictionary. Well, I now have a new take on the word. While taking my morning walk with my walking partner as we engaged in conversation, she used the word ego about a situation.It enlightened me in a new manner and prompted me to write this post.

One of the problems in many relationships is the inclusion of “I” and the exclusion of God. For a moment, think about when you were happiest in a relationship. What did that look like to you? Where was the focus? Were you more self-absorbed than God absorbed? Was there a triangle relationship or a duo one? In a duo relationship, there are two main characters- the two people involved. In a triangular relationship, there must be a third person or being. How many times have we said or heard someone else say, “Three is a crowd!” That can be a problem when we exclude God. No wonder our relationships end up in a mess.

Our ego can make us lose focus of who we are and what we should be in a relationship. Our place in the relationship should never exceed God’s place. Just like we consult him for business deals, major purchases we should daily ask him concerning making our relationships, God first. When we are happy, we forget that happiness is fleeting, but we focus on whatever we can to keep happiness secure in the relationship. We do what makes us happy. It puts us back at “I.” We sometimes even forget other things that are important to us or need to be taken care of by us. This changes when happiness flees, and things are not as rosy.

As soon as trouble comes, then we quickly try to form a triangular relationship with God at the helm. We want God included in every situation to make things better. Wouldn’t it be better to keep Him up front all the time? It doesn’t mean that we neglect our significant other or marriage partner. We can include God while not excluding our love one. You can make this happen by first making sure you have a stable personal relationship with God. Love God more than your partner. What I am merely saying is, let go of the ego and make God an essential part of the relationship. When we honor God and put Him first, everything else can fall into place. Don’t allow ego to take first place and wreak havoc in our relationships. Make God first and remember three is not a crowd! Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. Matthew 22:37. I’ll be back next week with a new post, “Waiting for Prime Time!”

PS. I am in the process of writing a post on “loneliness” to be released in about three weeks and would like to include feedback from my readers. I need individuals to tell how they have handled or are currently handling loneliness. I want the good, the bad, whatever. I will not identify any contributor.I am asking you to submit your comments through my contact page (Contact Me) on the website. Your remarks will go directly to my email, which only I can see. Please don’t put them in the comment section of this post. Thank you in advance for your contributions.

Be encouraged, and God bless!

Sister Jackie